Misunderstandings often develop between people because they do not understand each other's motivational patterns. These motivations compel the manner in which we relate to and serve each other. Understood properly these motivations can strengthen relationships. The following pages list common perceptions people have of each other in regard to their pilot intrinsic motivation.

For each motivation match, a salsa thermometer is shown to depict the potential for problems between two people if they don't understand and appreciate each other's differences.

An iced tea cooler is also given for each motivation combination to show where strengths are.

1. Find the intrinsic motivation that corresponds to your pilot motivation in the above list. Then click on it to understand better how it relates to other motivations. Do you find the relationship description similar to your own attitudes towards that person?
    
2. Click on the intrinsic motivation from the list above that corresponds to the pilot motivation of the person you desire to understand better. Look down through the list of motivations and find the one that corresponds to your pilot motivation. Do you find the relationship description similar to that person’s attitude towards you?
    
3. How does your relationship rate on the salsa scale? What does this indicate to you?
    
4. Does the iced tea cooler seem to be a strength in your relationship? Can you think of some other strengths that result from your differences?
    
5. How does knowing this about the other person help you to understand that person better and reduce the potential for hostilities in your relationship?